I believe it's so

Zombie look and feel alike girl roaming in the office, wearing a purple shirt paired in a jeans. From a bubbly girl, she has transformed into a quiet one, giving fake smile to those who greeted her. Others were anxious and excitedly talk bout her wedding but she can't hide the solemn-ness on her face. Is this what they call pre-wedding jitters? I believe it is so...........

After searching thru the internet, I have to identify myself to have pre-wedding jitters now. They happen because marriage does change your whole life. The jitters don’t necessarily mean you’re having second thoughts about the person you’re marrying. He or she may be the best soul you could ever find. Jitters can come from the life change marriage causes. It changes the way you live, your friends and who you are friendly with, the new family you might be gaining. It’s basically fear of the unknown. Anxiety becomes extreme when a person begins to obsess about whether or not they are making the right decision about something or loses sleep over apprehension that the dress or wedding site may not be quite right. This type of fretting could affect family, social, and work life. To make matters worse, the high stress involved in wedding planning can make people slip into their worst habits. Instead of working as a team, one or both parties may become demanding. Instead of listening, people can become defensive. All this really hit me in at the center button. But the sentence after this is really was a wake up call for me. "Other signs of the disorder include avoiding or manipulating situations to avoid the anxiety. "

After reading thru How to cure the Wedding Jitters on e-how.com. I realise I have to do something to keep myself occupy. They said chocolate is going to make you feel better. Currently in my cube, there's no chocolate to chew on, I guess sweet stuff like carbonated drinks will have to do. And my fav brand is Kickapoo. So while writing this, there's already an open can in front of the screen :) and I feel so much better. Just to share with you on how to cure the wedding jitters.

Introduction

You're about to take the big plunge, so it's only natural to get cold feet. Think about why you're feeling this way, but keep in mind that many brides and grooms experience the pre-wedding jitters - and that there's a reason you said yes in the first place.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderately challenging

Things You'll Need

• Stress Management Counseling
• Stress Relief Products
• Incense
• Airline Tickets
• Spa Gift Certificates

Steps

1 Step One

Go to a quiet place to get in touch with your feelings whenever the pressures of the pending marriage get to you.

2 Step Two

Reflect upon what you enjoy most about each other, the factors that make you think you'll be happy together and what is really important to you in life and love.

3 Step Three

Think back to the very moment you knew you loved and wanted to spend the rest of your life with your future spouse.

4 Step Four

Look to couples who have survived and celebrated many years of marriage. They can be a good source of support and great role models.

5 Step Five

Talk with your intended about your doubts and fears. You don't have to wait until after the marriage to communicate.

6 Step Six

Limit the time you spend with those who may be doing the doubting for you. Make sure your fears are really your own and not those of your friends or your parents

7 Step Seven

Set aside some time before the wedding to spend a romantic evening with your partner, away from all the wedding talk and plans.

8 Step Eight

Consider going to a couple's counselor to talk out your doubts.

I wrote an email to Hubs this morning, conveying how I feel right since last night after he rejected my idea. He had always stress on open communication since the early stage of the relationship. But sometimes I think he couldn't take my honest opinion. Either he has to learn how to accept words from my heart (which sometimes are not sweet to the ears and heart) or I have to control the way I feel. In each relationship, there has to be give and take.

Countdown: 3 days to go

After been in preparation for 9 months, now the wedding is just 3 days away. The feeling is like carrying the heavy belly for so long and now going to give birth, only this time to a wedding. If I were asked to describe my emotion in two words, it will be heavy hearted. Why? I really enjoy the process of getting the things done. I love the feeling of going to the uncle looking for the auspicious date, I miss being in the fitting room trying all the wonderful gowns but can't decided which one to choose, I adore the process of getting the cards and invitation, souvenirs done with my own creativity. Oh well, I actually miss my colleagues and friends fussed over how near my wedding is.

But for once, I don't like the feeling of letting others do the dinner program. I feel left out. Don't know about others, but I felt that the dinner Hubs and his best friend arrange is for them more than for me. It's more of HIS night or THEIR night more than OUR night. Hubs has been losing his hair trying to get all the things in place. He always complain he need to see to so many things. While I offered to help him, he's making most of the decision by himself. I sometimes wonder, was it because he don't want me to be stressed or is he just a controller? He's caring and independent, no doubt about that but I'm so used to making my own decision for the things concerning me and so this time, I totally have the feeling of dissatisfaction. I know if I ever complain to him, he'll be upset or angry or disappointed again. He's been trying to give me the best but here I am, wanted to "complain". I know how heart broken he'll be if he feels that his effort is not appreciated. So what I can do, keep to my darn mouth shut, act like a shy bride and let the whole thing goes by? It will end in just two days, so why start to make a scene out of it? Why can't I pretend that everything is going just the way I dream? Why? Why? Why??? Cause I'm a perfectionist.

*updated on Wednesday 28 Nov 13.59*

An excerpt I took from Get over those pre-wedding jitters.

Forget perfection

People focus on perfection. Perfection breeds jitters. Get rid of “perfect.” Everything will not be perfect! The perfect wedding will not happen — accept it, the perfect apartment, the perfect friends, the perfect sister in law, some things are just the way they are and you have to learn how to adapt, which is all normal.

Let go and give away the need to control everything. Be careful about what is fantasy and what is real. Focus on what is truly important.

Perfectionism is about control. If you let it loosen a bit, you will find that the grief, fear and loneliness that many people who are about to marry experience are not only normal but healthy. Everyone questions whether they are making the right decision. Questioning is not doubting.

Stress=Slim down

There have been many times I heard or read about how stress will make you slim down, took off a bit of your weight, bla bla bla.....It's kinda bullshit. Now I'm in the tension state but I didn't find any of my weight run away from me. Or....probably I have not reach the minimum tension level yet. It doesn't help that I am so lazy to exercise since the day I completed my pre-wedding shoots. I used to go either swimming or gym 3 times a week and look marvelous in my wedding gown. But now I feel bloated. There's no way I can slim down in just 5 days. I'm only praying that I will get so tension and scares some weight away.

Infection?

Recently, I find there's a slight slit on the right of my lips. It's annoying when I wanted to open my mouth bigger. I'm so used to laughing my heart out while throwing my head back. But now, I have to restrain my laugh, cause it hurts when I accidentally open my mouth too big. Even when eating, I can't get food that is spicy or salty as it will sting my slit. Not only on my lips but on my ears too. You know, the join between my ear lobes and my jaw line. Hubs is taking me to skin specialist after work. Hopefully it can be cured before my big day, which is just 5 days away.

Jusco Member's Day Penang

My all time favourite store is having member's day as I'm writing this blog. I've prepared for this since last week when my friend told me about it. Apparently, she thought it was last week, so she excitedly told us over lunch. However, she quickly admitted her mistake and took the effort to sms each of us the correct date, which is TODAY! Hubs and I have a date with Jusco right after work. But no, my colleagues couldn't wait and off we went during lunch time. As usual we went out late, so the car park is congested, the food court is bursting but the fun was, we saw so many hanged up poster with 30%, 50 % and even 70%. I couldn't wait anymore. The moment I saw my favourite bra brand, I totally ignored them and rush my way thru. Indeed, the bargain was not to miss. Initially I thought I'll wait for my second trip to try on the size upon seeing the crowd. Then something cross my mind. What if when I come back later and my size were all snatched up? What if there only left those push up bras that are anti-big-boobs? Mostly they designed the bra with built-in padding; i.e. can't be removed. With my being ehhm size, I don't need the padding....wait, it's I CAN'T have the padding. It will look overflow. So without wasting anymore time, I took two design and headed straight to the fitting rooms. There were about 7 ladies in front of me. Waiting patiently, I could see my colleagues busy picking out blouses from the bin. When it was my turn, I rushed in, closed the door, and within minutes I'm out again, wearing a big big grin. Yup, the size fitted my well and the price is the lowest I've ever seen. While still figuring if the line will be too long at the counter, there she was, my colleagues standing in the line holding a pile of blouses. So bad bad me, cut queue and hopped in front of her. Bet the aunty behind must be scolding me in her heart. I don't care, as long as I got the good deal of bra!! Just a step before my turn, to my horror, I forgot to get the resit. Rushing like a mad dog, I went to the bra section again just to see queue and the lady taking her own sweet time write the resit. Trust me, I almost die of heart attack waiting for my turn. No, I couldn't wait anymore. I asked the person in front of me if she could allow me to go first but before she could process my request, the nice aunty at the front of the line ask the sales person to let me go first. Phew! I must be good girl to receive this help. Thank god I made it on time back to the counter and continue with my payment. Otherwise, probably I have to take half day off. Well, it doesn't make much different cause by the time we reached, it's almost 3pm ;p

The Ups and Downs

Yeah! My wedding gown and evening gown are finalised for dinner

Boo! The cheongsam which I love so much could not be chosen due to the difficulty in movement (especially my first dance)

Boo! Make up schedule for mum and sisters are not confirmed yet cause the requested a later time. They wouldn't want the make up to melt before dinner

Yeah! Hubs and me are going to have a great weekend (read: TOMORROW). We have planned to go for our very first spa and then to a find dining.

Boo! Our appointed photographer might find a replacement for us instead of coming there himself. Gotta talk him out of the idea..

Yeah! Our traditional 'bedroom arrangement" session will be this coming Sunday

Yeah! We are going shopping after work today. Jusco member's Day.

Boo! My procrastinated work is getting piled up. Hopefully can finish before I start taking leave for my wedding

Yeah! I'll be on leave today of next week

Boo! I'm sensing slight nervousness as the day gets nearer

Yeah! My blog's rank has increase to 4 (WOOHOO!!)

Yeah! Our wedding is next week!!

*update* my blog's rank is actually down to zero. I wonder..... :(

FreeRice

I received a forwarded email on the FreeRice.com two days ago. Thinking it was just another forwarded email, I deleted it without even giving it a second thought. However, while browsing thru HowAboutOrange website today, I saw it again. This time, I clicked on the link and found this. FreeRice is a sister site of the world poverty site, Poverty.com. With two goals in hand, FreeRice aim to provide English vocabulary to everyone for free and help end world hunger by providing rice to hungry people for free. How is this, I asked. Apparently, this is made possible by the sponsors who advertise on this site. For each word you get right, they donate ten grains of rice through the UN to end world hunger.

Well, my vocab level is in shameful level, I dare not reveal here. As I wanted to donate more, I cheated a bit ;p I search for the meaning of each word before I choose the correct answer. This way, I can help to feed more and at the same time improve on my vocabulary. Check it out, click on the picture below.

You don't understand izzit?

I don't know how to put it. I think I'm going insane. The wedding is only 9 days away. My preparation is done mostly, so that's not the problem anymore. The main problem comes in when it involve family members. If others were to make fuss, even a small tiny one. I would just ask them no need to come (not in the face la, of course). For example, Hubs requested two of his friend to sing a song or two during the dinner. But they come up with extra idea. Since we have asked them so many weeks ahead, they should have prepared the songs and memorize the lyric even in their dream. But no, they need to have a tv like karaoke system, whereby they can refer to the lyric. This is NOT a karaoke room thingy, they should be like a pro. So instead, we'll just cancel their part.

The problem this time involved my own family members. We had arranged a family photography session at my bridal house prior to our dinner. And we (5 of us) will do their make up there as well. As the date is auspicious, there will be many brides doing their make up for dinner also. So in order to accommodate, the our sales assistant has arranged to start doing our make up as early as 12pm. I admit it's a lil early but their priority is on the brides. So I have to be understanding too. If I can be understanding, why can't my family do the same? Why have they to make my life difficult? They demand to have it at 2-3pm. No, they don't wanna do it so early cause by dinner time, their make up will be ruined. Then what do they expect? For other bride to do it so early and had theirs ruin instead? As usual, my sister manage to squeeze me till I suffocate. She sounded so concern on mum's make up, " You don't understand, izzit?". Everyone thinks for themselves but have anyone think of me? Do I have to please everyone but myself? Don't they see that I, as a bride is quite stress up with the wedding? That I, as a bride is more tensed than anyone. That I, as the bride will want to look more stunning than all others?

I have no one to turn to but pour my heart out here. If I were to tell Hubs, he'll be angry again. Cause this is not the first time he saw how my family makes me sad and hurt. Not to say they don't love me or I hate them, just that sometimes I really don't know how to handle this kind of situation. They have helped me a lot. At this time, I'm so lost.

Star Celeb

Coming back from I tiring shopping for my sis's dress, I switched on the TV and was channel surfing till I came upon a sms-to-vote reality show. Among the contestant, I spotted a girl who was from the same high school, a junior to be specific. She was WOW! Even during school time, she was already a diet watcher and being a ballet dancer didn't help much. This young lady used to compare herself with another pretty girl who was more popular, being a ballerina too and participated actively in choir, public speaking and prefectorial board. I didn't keep in touch with any of them for the past 7 years. It's been so long since I left school?? Now, I'm feeling old. Anyway, she is on Star Celeb (starceleb.tv) . What's Star Celeb? I run thru the website and found this ....

"StarCeleb is a brand new exciting reality show that will set a path to your road to stardom Hosted by May Wan and Daniel Tan, both talented in the field of modeling and hosting, the show promises lots of surprises, talent showcase and experiences we all can relate to. The search is on for two (2) talented individuals who is ready to become a star celebrity with characteristics of an ideal host, brand ambassador and model on a the brand new reality show 'StarCeleb'. You will stand a chance to win RM 50,000 cash prizes ( 2 winners each receiving RM 25,000 ), and a hosting / modeling contract."

The challenge that was on air last Sunday was they were required to go on the ride in Times Square Theme Park, come down and immediately host a show in their own way but must include in order, the 3 facts that given before hand. It wasn't an easy task, I must say. After all those bumpy, 720deg turn and have the heart almost popping from your mouth, you still have to come down and look and talk professionally. This junior was not one of the best but I think she did her best. She manage to keep her cool, walked like a model, descending from the stairs after the show. I mean, as a host, you must be so excited and jumping around, and can't wait to tell the audience how cool is the ride. The fact that she seems pretentious during the TVC, according the judges, doesn't help to gain her a good impression from them.

However, way to go girl!!! Here I am, another 16 days to become somebody's wife and there she is, climbing up her celebrity ladder. Oh, I'm so envy. But I'll achieve my fame too someday, in my own unique way. Who says only celebrity can be famous?

17 days to go

I have this bunch of cute colleagues working here with me. Why do I say cute? When I mentioned cute, it's not because of their appearance but more to their behavior. They are all excited with my upcoming wedding. What they did is, they set up a countdown board on MY white board. Every morning, they will stop by and alter the number accordingly. Although it's not that significant to others, but the fact that they come in to do it every morning never fails to make me smile. Aww....so sweeeett...

I think I'm getting hornier with the fact that I'm getting married soon. And whenever I see pregnant lady, I secretly wish for one too. But I know I'm not prepared yet. I just love the feeling of being able to have a round tummy to caress and still look so beautiful. Yes, I do find pregnant lady beautiful and their dress is cute. Sometimes when we go out for lunch or shopping, I couldn't help but check out those big tummy ladies. I know I want to be like that somewhere end of next year. Probably wearing a maternity blouse to Lutt wedding on September ;p

RSVP please....

It's sad to say that while the wedding is just a shy 3 weeks away, we have yet to receive the RSVP from a lot of people. I'm not sure what holds them up, probably they just love giving us "surprise". Or was is because they are waiting to receive more exciting ones, and is keeping ours as backup in case they are not invited? I believe many bride-to-be has been or is in this situation. Should we just give up their seats to others who are eager to go but didn't get the invitation due to seat limited? Or should we keep their seat regardless they are going to make it or not? We wouldn't mind if they try to give us reasonable excuses for not able to make it or just a flat "sorry, I don't think I wanna join your wedding dinner". At least that would make it easier for us to do the head counts and prepare the seating. Here is something I pick from a website. This is the part that really voice out what is in my heart.

"R.S.V.P.- the French phrase "répondez s'il vous plait," means "please reply". An incomplete list of respondents can cause numerous problems for a host, including difficulty in contracts with venues, planning schedules, food, parking, security, people-moving, seating, party favors and more. Sometimes the biggest issue is embarrassment for the host or the guest of honor."

Include the question the extent of your need for RSVPs in early planning phases of your event. If your event is formal or complex or expensive- you must be willing to suffer over your numbers. If you can afford to be hospitable by being more flexible or casual or simple or spending more money (!) - you will have less to worry over with your response rate.

However, we all have times when we want to provide a finely-tuned, high quality experience for guests, and the RSVP is the way to accomplish this. If you have an event that needs all the fine-tuning that a solid RSVP system provides, here are some ideas:

Take ample time on the invitations . Consider it an investment that can really pay off (how I wish) in favorable response for your event. Make the invitations memorable. Color, style, design, scale, a gimmick – consider these as techniques to trigger people's memory. Tune your invitation to the event so that it sets an accurate set of expectations in your guest's mind – for instance, if it is highly formal, you need to stay within formal perimeters."

We have also printed out the date for replying at the invitation. Hopefully they will see it and choose to obey, instead of making our life more miserable by painstakingly chasing after them for an answer.

"If you need to, set a clear, firm RSVP date. Include a phrase like: "This date cannot extend, promptness is a must. If we do not hear in time we must sadly take you from our list..." "

It's not a practise in our custom to limit the number of people an invited guest can bring. I really wish we can have the say but sadly, parents don't allow it and relatives can't accept it. Even some friends just don't understand the difficulty and insisted on bring the whole village. We have receive RSVP from Hubs friend who stated that the XX husband, XX son 1 and XX son 2 are coming. They should understand that wedding is mainly for adults and children are only allow for close relative. If only we can go this.....

"For more formal events, use wording: “We will reserve 4 seat(s) in your honor until April 25, 2007” on the RSVP card. This firmly indicates the maximum number of guests you are inviting and the need for a response.

Cover issues of people bringing children, dates or guests. Never print "no children" or "adults only" on an invitation. The way an invitation is addressed should indicate the names of exactly who - and by omission, who is not invited. Or, one can print: “Adult Reception.” Consider providing a babysitting service for your event if the participation of children presents a problem."

If we still didn't have the RSVP from the guest, trust me, I'm going to send out the e-invitation stating that their seat is only reserve till Xdate. Without any confirmation from them, their seats will be given up to others who might want to bring extra guest.

"Send out an email or call those you have not heard from by a certain date - it's perfectly acceptable in all guides on good manners.

Use face-saving phrases like:
"It has come to our attention that some people have not received their invitations to our event on May 3, 2007. If you did not receive your invitation, please let me know immediately so we can send another one. Hope to hear that you can attend the event!!" "

If only the guest will have this kinda info, then the arrangement won't be a headache for us anymore.

"What hosts should know about R.S.V.P. manners:

Be clear and give good direction. Do not be upset at people if you have not communicated well.

People are obligated to R.S.V.P. any time that they are invited to an event. That does not mean that they know this fact or will comply.

People should respond by the date on the invitation. If there is no date, they should reply within 48 hours.

If a guest responds “no” and then finds they can attend, it is appropriate to call the host and explain that they are honored to be invited, that schedules have changed and, if it's convenient, they'd like to attend. Hosts can accept or say no.

If it is an out-of-town event or a financially complicated event, potential guests can call and explain and ask what the absolute latest date to R.S.V.P. is. This is an acceptable inquiry on the part of your potential guest. "

For the most part, seeing the RSVPs roll in can be a fun part of planning! Seeing people responding and their well wishes really make us smile (but not those with extra uninvited guest). I have heard of cases whereby the guest brings his/her cousins or some other pick up stranger so that he/she won't be lonely. Have they thought of the host's feeling? Even more when it's seat limited like mine? Hubs and I were going down the list for the bazillionth time, trying to see if we can spare to cut out a few more people. Basically he's doing his and I'm doing mine. I wanted to help him cause I know it'll be hard to cut out but I know he will want to handle that himself.

A friend of mine started asking me, " Did you invite so and so?". Well, I didn't plan to invite them in the first place. But since she asked and she seems lonely, I did invite the others at last. Just as expected, they all come back with NO and secretly I'm so happy.I swear, sometimes I really get scared that this wedding is turning me into a horrible person. Does anyone else feel this way? Has anyone else gone through a similar situation?

Brand new look

My super cool cousin just create something and it makes my favors look better and awesome. She basically add the packaging for the magnet. As simple as that but it gave a whole new look to it. I'll let you judge by yourself. ( *insert Drum roll*)

front view

side view

a peep inside

open up

back view

Well, I think this is a good idea and the best part, it's so affordable. So what do you think?

I still have to work!

There is a rumor that said I'm going to resign after my wedding. Well, I wish so too. Unfortunately, the time has yet to come and sad to say, I'm still stuck here in my 4 x 4 cubicle. What worries me is this rumor might affect the way my boss will look at me. Although our annual review is around middle of the year, this rumor might have some impact on it. I really don't know who is the culprit. If I ever got to know that, believe me, I'm going to confront her like I confronted my ex sis who used to spread rumors about me. Am thinking of clarifying it with my boss when I hand him my invitation card later. Hopefully he's not that easily influence by the rumor.

Have you had any experience with rumor too? How do you handle them?

Hacker

A few weeks ago, I was chatting on MSN and bumped into an ex-colleague, who happened to be my university's junior. Trying to be nice, I asked her about her recent condition as she resigned due to family problem. After we chatted for a line or two, she asked me whether I have Maybank2U account. Since I didn't have it, she changed topic after that. She brought up a very personal question and I was quite taken aback. First of all, I was not used to being asked this kinda question and secondly, she portrayed to be very innocent. Her asking me this question?? It's either she feels I'm trust able or I'm being over sensitive. Luckily I didn't disclose anything personal to her. Every time she questioned something, I'll question her back (that's how my mum taught me ;p). I told Hubs when he fetched my home day. Never did it cross my mind that her account has been hacked. I mean, why would a person hack someone else chatting account?

Not until recently that I got to know the truth. I went to BBQ at my colleague's apartment and coincidently, a few who attended were my university's juniors too. So they were friends of my ex-colleague. I overheard them talking about this hacker who used the msn account and conned one of the juniors to bank in the money for her. Below is the email the victim sent out to warn others. Please take note of the hacker's name and account.

Guys! please beware of MSN fraud! Read on:

It happened around 1125am on 19th October 2007. When i was busy with work, a friend suddenly 'IM'ed me using MSN messenger. She used to be my roomate and i am very close with her. So, she asked if i could log in to maybank2u account because she couldn't. As I’ve tried, i could log in. She asked me for a favor saying that she owed a friend money and been delaying him very long and its kind of urgent to return the money and asked if i could help her to transfer money to her friend first and saying that she'll definitely bank in the money back to me after work that day. The amount she asked was initially RM800, but since i got not that much money in that bank account, she told me to wait as she will ask her friend if its okay paying him RM400 first. So, sensing some kind of emergency here, i without any hesitation (this friend once asked me to lend money to her the same way), I’ve banked in the amount to the bank account she gave me. The account no. is 1111-1428-6194 and the owner's name is KEW MIN TECK. Well, at the end of the day, after working hour, i still yet to receive any call from my friend regarding the money. So, i smsed her regarding the money. She was shocked about it and asked if she still owe me money. (We stayed together for the past few months, so, sometimes she owes me money for bills...)So, with the thought that she forgot bout it, i mentioned to her that she asked for my help to transfer RM400 to her friend first. With that, she's even more surprised and gave me a call. When i told her about it, she said it must be her email account being hacked already. (FYI - MSN uses email account to login) because she received a SMS from an unknown number saying that he's matthew and he hacked her email and asked her if she wants him to restore for her. This guy's number is 012-2141405 which is a prepaid number. I was so shocked with the news and immediately went to Maybank to see if the transfer could be stopped. It was already 720pm at that time, offices already closed down. I've called the maybank hotline and they asked me to make a police report and bring back to Maybank tomorrow. So, i quickly went to the nearest police station and make a report believing that with the guy's bank account number and name, police force could at least track him down or get evidence on him for the crime he's committing. I told my friend to do the same thing and tell her to sms all her friends regarding her account being hacked. At the police station, there's this policewoman at the counter. She asked me where did i do the transaction and i told her at my office. she told me that i must go to another police station to make the report as that is not under their district. I was like 'huh?' However, i managed to make a police report. That policewoman did not even listen properly to the incident i was telling and she started to type on her own. Since she did not attentively listen to what i was saying, she got things wrong and asked us to write the story down. I was lucky that i got a friend to accompany me to the police station. (i don't even know where's the police station is... i'm a KL ppl in Penang now). Even though I’ve made a police report, the case wasn't open. To no avail, nothing has been done. The policewoman then called another officer (it seems that this officer has the higher rank) and he talked to me. I was asked by him 'why do i need the police report’, the reason of getting a police report? (is that suppose to be a question? i wouldn't have trouble myself to lodge a report if i find it not necessary)By telling him that at least could get details on the guy from the bank, he told me to go to Maybank and get the guy's particulars and hopefully i could talk to that guy and it'll be good if he returns the money else, i'll need to treat it as a wrong investment. (wrong investment!!???) So, particularly, nothing has been done.

The next amusement thing about this is that, i went to Maybank as told by the officer the next day along with the police report and hope that i could get details on that guy. And the only thing that i found out is that they need an officer/personel to come along only authorised to view the details! (omg! how come no one told me bout it at the police station?) The guy in maybank was very helpful. He managed to help me check (i got a peep on it) about that hacker's bank account. To my surprise, there are alot of transcation to this guy account! Besides mine at 11.25am, at 11.30am there's another transaction (RM620) transfered to his account. There are several more. And at that moment, his account only left RM146! Doesn't it obvious that this guy is vigorously cheating others by hacking into other people's account? Since, nothing can be done without an officer/personel, with much despair i decided to go home. Just on the way back, i received a call from a friend from KL stating that the hacker the friend's email account to online again and now talking to him. That hacker uses the same tactic to him asking for help to transfer money using maybank2u. I asked my friend to entertain him to see if it is the same guy,same bank account number. So, when i reached home. I tried to talk to that guy again. He's using the same conversation again! (omg! doesn't he remember that he has already conned me?) by making it sounds like i'm talking to my friend, i talked to him again. So, as predicted. He asked the same question again and the whole lot conversations were the same. And without any surprise, the name and the bank account number is the same! So, i called the police station where i make a report yesterday to tell them about it. The policeman who picked up the phone was so rude. Then, i told him bout the incident and my report number and told him that this guy is in action again. And yet, another disappointment. The policeman said that there's nothing he could do as he can't get out of the police station and he then gave me a hp number to call. I called that officer who's responsible for this kind of cases but only got 'i'm busy at the moment. i'm taking some statement here' as the answer. My KL friend who got the whole conversation which of course, the same account number and the same name - went to make a police report and requested to open up a case for this. After waiting for 4 hours at the police station and listening to the policemen saying that there's nothing they can do, there's no evidence and a more ridiculous question thrown to my friend is "Berapa Ribu kau hilang?" (how many thousands you have lost?)

Isn't it the police’s responsibility to track this fella down? And why am i the one suppose to get the particulars from Maybank? Doesn't he knows that we're not authorise to do any checking on people's particulars unless there's an officer/personel together with the police report only could do that? Why am i not told about it when i'm at the police station lodging the report? And isn't it the job of the police to get evidences on this guy who is doing the crime? It doesn't matter on how much we got cheated, it is still our money and furthermore, what if that i'm not the only person being conned here? Imagine, each person he conned RM400, so if he managed to con 10 people, that would make it RM 4000 per day! I am seriuosly being dissappointed with the act of the police force. It's as if they are imaginary since they claimed that they could do nothing about it. And these kind of crimes will continue and it'll be even worse as there's no action being take and these culprits will happily commit these crimes without being afraid of getting caught.

So, people! What you can do now is be more extra careful when you're dealing with your money. Always verify with the people you're sending money to, no matter how close he/she to you. And don't assume that your friend's/family's eamil account is not being hacked!

p/s: this is part of the conversation I got (the day after when he’s trying to con me again) And I got to know from maybank that he’s account is from kuching, Sarawak.

=jOcElYn= says (12:36 PM): hey
çhof??? says (12:36 PM):eh
=jOcElYn= says (12:36 PM): how are you??
çhof??? says (12:36 PM):fine lo
çhof??? says (12:36 PM):how about u?
=jOcElYn= says (12:36 PM): not very good not very bad
=jOcElYn= says (12:36 PM): haha
=jOcElYn= says (12:36 PM):just fine like u
=jOcElYn= says (12:36 PM):you getting prettier!
çhof??? says (12:36 PM): :P
çhof??? says (12:37 PM):no la
=jOcElYn= says (12:37 PM):no need shy le
çhof??? says (12:37 PM):u're prettier
=jOcElYn= says (12:37 PM):haha, no la
=jOcElYn= says (12:37 PM): i ugly one
=jOcElYn= says (12:37 PM):eh, do you have maybank2u acc?
çhof??? says (12:38 PM):why?
=jOcElYn= says (12:38 PM): dunno why i can't login to the site since yesterday
=jOcElYn= says (12:38 PM): u manage to login?
çhof??? says (12:39 PM):erm.. ya
=jOcElYn= says (12:39 PM): i think my pc got virus already
=jOcElYn= says (12:40 PM):the page cannot finish load
çhof??? says (12:42 PM):oh! really?
çhof??? says (12:42 PM):u din install antivirus meh?
=jOcElYn= says (12:43 PM): got scan but took very long time so i always press cancel..haha
=jOcElYn= says (12:43 PM): can u do me a favor?
çhof??? says (12:43 PM):aiyoo
çhof??? says (12:43 PM):u better scan it properly la
çhof??? says (12:43 PM):else ur data all gone lagi teruk
=jOcElYn= says (12:43 PM): i need to transfer money to my fren and been delaying hin since yesterday...u help me to bank in can? i bank in back to u this evening when i go out
çhof??? says (12:46 PM):ooo
çhof??? says (12:46 PM):why so urgent geh?
=jOcElYn= says (12:46 PM): cause delayin him very long already. i feel so bad
=jOcElYn= says (12:46 PM): can u help me?
çhof??? says (12:47 PM):ohh
çhof??? says (12:47 PM):who is that?
=jOcElYn= says (12:47 PM): my fren, i asked him help me buy some stuff and he already send to item and yet i still havent paid him
çhof??? says (12:49 PM):eh, u din go back hometown ar?
=jOcElYn= says (12:49 PM): nolar
=jOcElYn= says (12:49 PM): can u help me or not?
çhof??? says (12:49 PM):wait wait
çhof??? says (12:49 PM): i'm loading the page
çhof??? says (12:49 PM):also vry slow lo
çhof??? says (12:50 PM):my connection very slow
çhof??? says (12:50 PM):sooo sorry
=jOcElYn= says (12:50 PM):u using dial up?
=jOcElYn= says (12:50 PM): or streamyx?
=jOcElYn= just sent you a nudge.
=jOcElYn= says (12:54 PM):
çhof??? says (1:17 PM):y not i send cheque to u or pass cash to u?
çhof??? says (1:19 PM):ok ma?
=jOcElYn= says (1:19 PM): i need to transfer the money to him now
=jOcElYn= says (1:19 PM): pass me cash also no use
=jOcElYn= says (1:19 PM): he's in malacca
=jOcElYn= says (1:19 PM): i got money in my maybank2u just can't log in!
çhof??? says (1:20 PM):oh
çhof??? says (1:20 PM):u give me ur fren's acc then
çhof??? says (1:20 PM):so i can transfer when the page loaded finish
=jOcElYn= says (1:20 PM):u manage to log on now?
=jOcElYn= says (1:21 PM): 1111-1428-6194 kew min teck

Thinking back I still naively talked to her and didn't suspect a thing. Heck, no wonder she sounded so different! Luckily I didn't even have Maybank account.

Thank you so much!

I didn't expect the wedding favor done by my cousin will receive such a good response from fellow forum member. All this while I never realize her talent. She has always been the quite and shy girl I know. Although others will be busy kepo-ing, she chose to enter her dream world and imagine things. Others often mistaken her as snobbish but to me, she is a sweet girl. She seldom show her stuff to us, family members. But when I was scratching my head on the wedding favors, she offered to help. By telling her how I want the design to be; i.e. the wordings and the cartoon, she just set off to do her best. She does all the experimenting herself, and showed us the final product for approval before she proceed with the making. I was impressed and happy when I first saw the final piece. This is exactly how I want it to be. A few asked me about it, where I had it made, how much was it, how long does it takes to make one, what is the material? Honestly I didn't know how to answer. I was too busy with wedding preparation to take notice. And I wanted to call myself DIY princess.....shame on me! Now I know who to go after if I ever face craft challenge in the future. Anymore DIY will be AFTER my wedding.

Sincerely, I want to thank her for easing my burden in wedding preparation, all this without creating more damage to my already damaged wallet.

Wedding favors

I wanted to gift something to my guest for them to remember our wedding. Not that our wedding will not be special enough to last in their memories (in fact I believe it will be wedding of the year ;p). We have break so much traditional Chinese custom wedding dinner. As our guests consist of different stage, I don't want my effort to go to waste. I think some of them will not know how to appreciate wedding favors. So in order to make it more special, only a handful of our friends and relatives will receive them. We made it in such a way that everyone will know what to do or where to put our wedding favor. Most of the house will have at least one fridge. So there's where our favor will be placed. Even if they don't have fridge (this apply mostly to the ppl who is renting room) they can place it in their office. Yup, it's a personalized handmade magnet.

name has been distorted to protect identity

Don't mistaken it for the couple doll, or the vege or even the tortoise. It is the rectangular piece of magnet with our name on it. We got someone to do it for us and the cost is so affordable, since we spent so much on the hotels and others already.

What do you think? Is this the best gift?

Wedding red lamp

There's a Chinese tradition whereby for 3 days and 3 nights before the wedding, the lamps have to be lighted. Not so sure about the meaning though. Probably something related to fertility, the ever famous custom. So off I went to buy them. Saw this cute lil pair in one of the shops. It's quite small so they won't take up lotsa space and most importantly they doesn't cost a bomb to my already damage pocket.

Ain't they cute? Definitely suitable for my small wedding room.

They uses oil for prayers. So it might run out in less than 3 days. Anyway, the aunty told me to just put them as a symbol only and on the normal fluorescent light. Good idea!

Inspiration

I'm obsess with anything to do with DIY. I love to see all those cute and nice things done by other peers. Although I'm yet to be a DIY queen, I've been experimenting with lotsa things. Mum always say I should try to start business out of this. Love the idea but the main problem is I don't have the necessary equipment and tools. I don't even have space for me to do it. Although my interest spread to photo editing, I'm still at the beginner stage. So I can do nothing like this young sweet capable lady here ............yet! I'm pretty sure I'll reach the state where I can stay at home doing my hobbies while making lotsa $$out of them.

I have envisioned my future life of being mummy. My children will never have to wait for me to come back from 8-5 job. I will not have to miss their day to day achievement. Together we'll have each other (of course with daddy too), free from the office job, working when we feel like it. Don't ever laugh at me, for we WILL have that kinda life. With each passing day, our goal is getting nearer. I'm starting my option trading next year. With passive income generated from there, slowly I'll be able to quit my current job. I've been collecting ideas of DIY, so by the time I'm ready, I'll be able to setup online business. Bless me!